Poor Andrew.

It looks like he's just now opening his eyes to the fact that the Obama administration won't be "waving a magic wand" anytime soon, permitting Andrew and his "American husband" special gay sanctuary.

Sounds like he might even be deported (though I understand Andrew sometimes get dramatic in his writings, so this might be hyperbole...)

But I have a sickeningly familiar feeling in my stomach, and the feeling deepens with every interaction with the Obama team on these issues. They want them to go away. They want us to go away.

Here we are, in the summer of 2009, with gay servicemembers still being fired for the fact of their orientation. Here we are, with marriage rights spreading through the country and world and a president who cannot bring himself even to acknowledge these breakthroughs in civil rights, and having no plan in any distant future to do anything about it at a federal level. Here I am, facing a looming deadline to be forced to leave my American husband for good, and relocate abroad because the HIV travel and immigration ban remains in force and I have slowly run out of options (unlike most non-Americans with HIV who have no options at all).

And what is Obama doing about any of these things? What is he even intending at some point to do about these things? So far as I can read the administration, the answer is: nada. We're firing Arab linguists? So sorry. We won't recognize in any way a tiny minority of legally married couples in several states because they're, ugh, gay? We had no idea. There's a ban on HIV-positive tourists and immigrants? Really? Thanks for letting us know. Would you like to join Joe Solmonese and John Berry for cocktails? The inside of the White House is fabulous these days.

Wow. Kinda makes the 4:20 posts and the push to Legalize Pot shrink in comparison. Maybe the self professed "big boy with money" ought to better define his "fight" and then stick to it until he achieves whatever personal goals he's aspiring to.

And stop being such a sucker come campaign time. Even if you don't vote, you shouldn't have been fawning so much over Obama's candidacy in the first place. Critical thinking in retrospect really doesn't affect outcomes, except maybe to up blog hits.

And pity the poor writers who play that way. That's no game at all.

"When you change with every new day ... still I'm gonna miss you..."