Things That Make You Go "Hmm..."

Assigned Media (Evan Urquhart)@assignedmedia·May 10:

Let me break this down further:Trans people, like other people, generally prefer the least invasive, least expensive, mildest medical interventions necessary to treat their medical needs. (This is 100 percent contrary to the disinformation spread by the anti-trans side.)

This means that someone who suspects their gender dysphoria will be eased with hormone treatments and they won't need surgery will generally avoid surgery.And, vice versa. Someone who thinks surgery will do enough, with no hormones, will generally prefer no weekly injections.

Trans people have consistently advocated for this. For the opportunity to have FEWER unnecessary medical interventions, to have individualized care that doesn't push a one-size-fits-all.

On one extreme, some people may not need any medical interventions at all. Which is great! Why transition medically if using different pronouns and a new name is enough? But, of course, the problem starts when transphobia comes in.

Transphobia is like a magnet that seeks the fewest number of trans people possible. So, when someone suffering from transphobia hears some trans people don't need all the available medical interventions it uses it as a rationale to deny medical interventions.

"Why can't you just be gay?" "Why can't you just be nonbinary?" "Why can't you just change your pronouns?" "Why can't you just dress up on the weekends?" "Why can't you just stay in the closet?" "Why can't you just be cisgender?"

They push for as little transness as possible.

In contrast, trans people who have experienced gender dysphoria don't think that way.

Trans people don't want surgery, hormones, etc. We want to live decent lives where we're comfortable and accepted. We have individual things we need to make that happen. We support one another in this and ask for individualized treatment and widespread social acceptance.

I haven't had surgery bc testosterone cleared up my gender dysphoria. But I know what untreated gender dysphoria is like. So you don't catch me telling other trans ppl they don't need surgery.

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Also, this:

Vivian Wulf 🏴 @MxVivianWulf · May 9

If someone is engaged in anti-trans activism and you know they're trans but they're stealth is it okay to out them?

Mx. Mychel Vandover (she/they) 

No. Never. Outing anyone is wrong, period. The right to tell your own story does not come from the community, it is part of who we are as human beings and no one has the right to take that away from us. Outing someone is an act of violence and denies their dignity as humans 

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That's why I think, in time, as much as it is much, much easier to get by in life by being whom others might want you to be, it's important to work up the courage to share what is really going on in your head since like forever, and not to try and "play it safe" by denying who you really are, or improvising as the situation calls for, unless you instinctively sense extreme danger, and have to do it as a self-protective mechanism... ~Derve.

(Thankfully, as society evolves and we all learn more and start to re-value kindness, understanding and compassion --even if we might not really "get it", all these social adjustments that make things not so simple socially-- life can get easier and you can grow more comfortable in your own skin, as time goes by...) 

Let's hope, anyway.